When you can’t have it all #shopping #fashion

autumn-1649362_1920Autumn, season of mists and mellow fruitfulness 

I love autumn, for so many reasons.

Beyond nature and being outside as the weather chills and the colours burst, it’s my favourite fashion season; and this autumn’s new styles have begun to show up in the shops.

What used to be my most loved and thumbed mail order catalogue has clattered through my letterbox.  I say used to be, as, yes, you guessed it, I have for several years been beyond its size-range.  With my healthy lifestyle commencing last September, and now 5 stone (70 pounds/+30 kilo) and around 5 dress sizes smaller than I was back then, I’m back in their range – comfortably.  Browsing its pages, I felt (oh, the irony!) like a child in a sweet-shop.

I wanted everything, you see.  Everything. Not only the beautifully cut jersey dresses (I haven’t worn a dress in two decades), but the shapely jersey tops, casual jackets, funnel-neck jumpers, button-through blouses, gilets and knitted sleeveless jackets, and the lovely tailored trousers (with actual zips and buttons instead of elasticated waists).  Everything.  By the time I’d scanned right through, front-to-back, twice, I had the corners of no less than 18 pages turned down and a little trail of drool running from the corner of my mouth.

This year’s autumn season fashion is rich with one of my very favourite colour pallets too, variously presented as berry, plum, burgundy, cerise, port or magenta – a deep dark red with a range of subtle blue/pink/purple undertones.  I am in fashion nirvana.

But.  But.  But…

You see, every year for the past two decades, I’ve purchased pretty much anything that looked remotely pleasing on my ample frame. Common sense and budget tells me that whilst I might want everything, I can’t have it.  Today, there is so much… MORE… that not only fits, but looks nice too. And I mustn’t forget that I’m still on the weight-loss path, and hopefully only passing-through my current shape and size. Next autumn, I might need a size, two perhaps… maybe even three… smaller.

I also know that I believe I look better in some things than I actually do – simply because I look so much better than I did this time last year. It’s a question of perspective. Others wouldn’t go where I would go with fashion, because they would feel too large and lumpy at the size I am now.  But that’s what being on the way down does to you – because wherever you are on the downward journey, it’s a big improvement on where you were.

This year, I have to establish a new strategy – restraint, selectiveness, a purchase plan for items I absolutely need – genuine essentials for the autumn/winter season, missing from my current wardrobe. That means… (sigh…) more moderation, self-control and indulgence management.

I’ve got reasonably good at indulgence management on the culinary front. But I’m not so sure I’ll be implementing the required degree of retail restraint with the same level of commitment.  That’s because I’m a woman, and women were born to shop.

Pssst…. I’ve been away to a fabulous healthy retreat holiday in Spain for the last week. Watch out for my next post for more on my experience.  But for now, if you’re curious, check out D-Toxd, here.


Author: Jools

Abundant, Bold, Confident, Determined, Empathetic, Forthright, Grumpy, Healthier, Individual, Just me, Kind, Loving, Mellifluous, Natural, Optimistic, imPatient, Quirky, Real-world, Single-minded, unTreatable, Unwound, Verbal, Wilful, eXtraordinary, Young and old, Zero-tolerance.

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